Apples to apples

Comparison: to examine (two or more objects, ideas, people etc.) in order to note similarities or differences.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the Comparison Trap! Trust me I know! Being a person that is some what competitive by nature, the comparison trap is something I was in for far too long. Of course, in my mind I was usually on the short end of the comparison stick. She has nice thick hair, mine is thin, she has nice long legs, mine are short, her kids seem perfect, mine misbehave, her husband does the dishes, mine doesn’t, and on and on. Interestingly when we are comparing we always seem to compare other people’s ‘highlight reel’ with our ‘behind the scenes’. Their social media posts or the few minutes we see them out somewhere. No one is perfect, or has the perfect life.

We all have things about ourselves and our lives that we love and things that we wish were different. Comparison can actually be the enemy to progress because it can make it seem overwhelming. If we compare ourselves to others it often causes us to  think we just have too far to go, we might as well not even bother. But that’s wrong! That’s where comparison traps us!  And keep in mind, if you are comparing yourself to pictures on magazines or social media posts, and you think you could never look like that.  Well, you probably can’t because most times that person doesn’t even look like that, they are photoshopped and touched up with so much editing, it’s not even realistic! I’m a firm believer in keeping it real and authentic.  I refuse to edit or use a filter on my pictures, even though I know it would make me look better, it’s just not real!

What can we do if we find ourselves stuck in the Comparison Trap, or being pulled too often towards it?

  1. Have GRATITUDE!

    Nothing helps get life in perspective as a healthy dose of looking at what we are blessed with, what we are thankful for in our lives! One of the challenges that I give to members of Whole By Nutrition is a gratitude challenge. I encourage you to try it. Every day write down 3 things that you are thankful for.   Each day it needs to be 3 things that you haven’t written down previously. Try this for a month and I guarantee you will see a big difference in your life. It’s very freeing!!

  2. GET AT IT!

    Accept what you can’t change in your life, but change what you can. If there are things in your life that you know that you can improve on, then get at and change what you can! Do what you need to do to be the best version of yourself.
    Do it for you! Not because you are comparing yourself to someone else, but because you want to be the best version of YOU!
    So forget about comparing yourself to someone else, be thankful for what you do have, and work to make the improvements that you would like to see in yourself.


Creamy Tomato Soup

  • 2 Tbsp. extra virgin olive oil
  • 1 large onion, peeled and chopped
  • 4 cloves garlic, peeled and coarsely chopped
  • One 28-ounce can crushed, diced or whole peeled tomatoes
  • 11⁄2 cups chicken stock (no m.s.g. & low sodium)
  • 1 cup unsweetened coconut milk• 2 tablespoons minced fresh basil, plus 1 tablespoon for garnishing
  • 1 Tbsp. tomato paste
  • 1 Tbsp. balsamic vinegar
  1. In a large Dutch oven or soup pot heat the oil over medium heat. Add the onions, and sauté until just about translucent, about 4 minutes. Stir in the garlic and sauté for 1 minute more.
  2. Mix in the remaining ingredients, and simmer for 5 to 10 minutes to allow the flavors to meld.
  3. Optional, for a creamier texture:Carefully pour a cup or two of the soup mixture into a blender (until it is only halfway full) and puree until smooth. Remove to a separate
    soup pot or container, and repeat with the remaining soup mixture, working in batches. Alternatively, you can use an immersion blender to puree the soup mixture.
  4. Serve hot, topped with some minced basil for garnish.  Enjoy  ?